There are so many different weight loss programmes around, some healthier than others and so much written and talked about on the subject of losing weight, that there really should be no excuse for people not able to lose weight because they don’t know how to.
We all know how to lose weight. We know that if we take in less calories than we burn off, we will lose weight. It’s that simple. We know that if we combine diet and excersise we will lose weight and be fitter and healthier. And yet even though we know this there are a lot of people who don’t do it. They end up frustrated and angry with themselves because they can’t seem to stick to a diet or go to a gym on a regular basis and beat themselves up over “lack of willpower.” This often leads to a vicious circle of putting on more weight as they comfort eat to help them feel better, which of course just makes them feel worse.
The top and bottom is that if you wanted to lose weight, you would. It is that simple. So if it is not happening and this is particularly true for those who have tried so many times to lose weight and have still not achieved it, there is a reason. There is something that is stopping you and whatever it is lies in your subconscious mind.
Consciously, you may truly, truly believe you want to lose weight and will talk about it, get as much information as you can, start a diet, start going to the gym, buy all the right foods, but if it all falls by the wayside, it is because your subconscious mind has other ideas and does not think losing weight is a good idea. And the subconscious mind always wins. It doesn’t do it for any other reason except that in its own weird and wonderful way, it is protecting you. The subconscious mind always has a positive intent, it never wants to hurt you. All the clues are there as well. The feelings of frustration, anger, all the other negative emotions are because your conscious and subconscious mind are in conflict. Not a happy place to be!
A very strong indication is willpower. If you are having to use sheer willpower to stick to a diet or excersise programme, that is your subconscious mind letting you know it doesn’t want to. Willpower is not meant to be used in the long term. Its function is to give our minds and bodies a quick burst in the event of an emergency, where we are at physical risk. For example, escaping from a burning building, getting out of a car that has been involved in an accident, defending ourselves from an attacker etc., etc. What we tend to do, even though we may not be aware of it, is apply it when we are forcing ourselves to do something we don’t want to do subconsciously!
Not convinced? Then think about the times when there has been something you really, really wanted. If it was in your power to get it, would anything have stopped you from getting it? I’m guessing the answer is a big no! Even if it wasn’t in your power at the time, I’m further guessing you would have moved heaven and earth and done everything you could to get it somehow! So if you really, really wanted to lose weight, which is completely in your power to do so, you would!
What needs to happen is that you have to dig down into the subconscious and uncover what that “positive intent” is. Why your subconscious is so against you losing weight, it will sabotage every effort you make to do so. That’s how powerful it is! Once it is uncovered and brought to the surface, it can be resolved and replaced with a new “positive intent” that is in line with what you consciously want, then losing weight is something you will achieve because you are inspired, motivated, determined, in other words you really, really want to! And you will! Nothing will stop you!
To give an example, I worked with a lady who was getting married and wanted to lose weight for her wedding. She could not understand why she could not stick to a healthy eating/exercise plan, when she had every reason to do so and wanted to look her best on her wedding day. Needless to say, she was both frustrated and upset. When we started digging about and getting to the root cause we uncovered the fact that her previous husband had a terminal illness and during his final stages she lost weight as she went through this difficult time.
So the link was made in her subconscious that losing weight equated to pain, grief, sadness, so not surprising then that the subconscious rebelled against it and did its utmost to ensure it wouldn’t happen. The positive intent it had was to protect her from going through all that pain again, which it believed she would, if she lost weight. The subconscious mind does not work on a logical level, it works on an emotional level, totally different to the conscious mind.
The good thing is, that the subconscious mind will believe anything, if it is told often enough. All we had to do was dismantle the old subconscious belief, install a new positive one, through various techniques, that the subconscious believed, and she was able to achieve her goal in plenty of time.
So do you really, really, want to lose weight? Your actions and behaviour will give you the answer! Truly!
Janet Wilks 2011 - www.nlpeze.co.uk