Modelling is about identifying a person who is really excellent at what they do. It’s then working out how that person does what he or she does well and how you can replicate that. It may be they are good at relationships, a successful salesperson, good at making money, play sports well, great actor, or singer, whatever it is, it can be modelled. The person does not even have to be alive!
In NLP the thinking is that if one person can do something, then anyone can learn to do it! In other words “Every Master was once a Disaster!”
We all practice modelling to a certain extent, often without realising it. If we are shown how to do something, we will usually start off doing it the way we were shown, because we know it works doing it that way! As we grow in confidence, we may adjust and adapt the way we do it that is more suited to our own style.
Children model behaviour constantly. It is how they learn, grow, communicate and as they get older they find their own identity so their values and beliefs become unique.
Modelling is not about becoming a clone! Often people will take modelling to an extreme by becoming a “mini me” of the person they are modelling, instead of taking the best bits and retaining their own identity and individualism.
What is going on physically in their body? What’s their physiology? How do they stand, sit move? What is their posture? How would it be to imagine yourself in their reality and seeing and observing the world through their eyes?
How do they behave?
Focus on the what, how and why of their behaviour
What do you want to duplicate?
How do they do their behaviour?
Why do they do it?
What is the difference that makes the difference?
Identify what it is they do that differently to someone who is not successful. What is an essential part of why they are excellent at what they do?
Create a Plan
Once you have discovered their key elements that when put together produce successful behaviour, create a plan that uses that information. Use the plan to replicate the what, how and why.
Janet Wilks -2013 www.nlpeze.co.uk