So we stand there, beating ourselves up, and saying things like “If only I had……..(fill in the blank!)” “What on earth was I thinking?” “How could I have been so stupid?”
Instead of getting ourselves back on the right road, we stay stuck on the wrong road, not moving, as we have no idea in which direction to go, because we are focusing on how we ended up here, rather than focusing on getting back on track!
When I was in Oz, visiting my son, I would take myself off most afternoons for a walk. Not knowing the area and not having the best sense of direction, I was always getting lost, without a clue where I was! What I did know though, was that if I got myself back to the seafront, I would be fine. As they lived by the sea, once I’d got myself there, it was just a case of walking along the beach or taking the costal path more or less to the front door!
So the first thing to do is stop berating yourself for being lost! It is not helpful! Once you stop doing that, it allows you to focus and take stock of where you are exactly, so you can look for the signs that will point you in the right direction and find your way to where you want to be!
Instinct told me that I needed to be heading downhill to get to the sea and following people with surfboards, towels, goggles, flippers etc., was usually a pretty good indication that I was going the right way and if I was still unsure, well then I would ask!
So, to get back on the right road look for some obvious signs, (like my people with surfboards) and trust your inner guidance system, which works just like a GPS, let it know where you want to be and it will, instinctively get you there!
And of course you can always ask! Somebody who know the area, knows which road you are on now and which road you want to be on and can guide you in the right direction
Remember, no matter how lost you think you are, you can always find your way back, by looking for the signs, trusting your instinct and asking for direction.
Janet Wilks – NLPeze May 2016
Photo by Phil Johnson